This past week I have shared 3 articles about significant medical needy children who found a family to love and cherish them...to see value in who these children were when no one else would .
Paul and I have been on our adoption journey for over 31 yrs now. Abraham was our first adopted child who was raised with our 5 bio. children. He suffered some brain damage from a beating he endured when he was 2. He is also blind . I was just 29 yrs old when we brought him home from Mexico....
Life for our family changed dramatically and has continued to since our first adoption ....I have advocated and tried to encourage others to adopt thru all of these years. My heart has always been moved for the child who would be more of a challenge to place or maybe even the ones that no one wanted. We have stepped into many of our adoptions filled with the excitement of welcoming another child or even once 5 children but also I can remember waking up in the middle of the nite wondering " What were we doing ?" We have always sought the Lord's will about adopting. I began to journal ( now for 31 yrs.) when we started our adoption of Abraham. I have my journals to return to that have my notes, my heart , feelings and many scripture that encouraged us along the way...because even following the Lord's will can be difficult. I have no regrets though and many more memories and times of watching children, my children overcome, struggle thru and find who they were in God's eyes.
There has always been one thing I just don't get though - Why don't more people, Christians in particular choose to adopt ? I have shared many children with many people hoping to find families for that child or children . I have heard it all in their excuses but none have ever said, " God did not call me to adopt."
They say things like, " I am to old , we don't have room, we don't make enough, I have cancer, or even my life is too busy, I have too many children already."
Let me tell you about a woman I know very personally. She is 60 ( old : ) , She lived in a regular size home until all of the additions to make her home over 5000 sq feet. Her husband makes a regular salary and works hard at it. Her life is busy crazy teaching her children at home, managing all the special needs appts and life with so many, She has 36 children too....I am that woman .
Every time I have spoken with someone about a child...I cringe when the excuses start to come out. Because no one is too old, or lives in a home too small, or makes too little of money or is any busier or has more children than the Lord can not work with. He does not call us to a perfect age, or big enough home or large enough salary or simple enough life or a certain number of children to do His will. He asks us to be obedient to what He calls us to. I know He has called many and they have chosen something else...maybe comfort, peace, wealth, or control of their own time. How sad because these children have no choice but to except this hell they live in.
Yes, raising children is hard and certainly not easy when they have come from such horrific backgrounds, but God will never leave you. If we do what He says He will make our life count for something. If we do what He says, He will never leave us. We will not always be comfortable walking this walk ...We may face difficulties and challenges or dangers in our life following Him ; But God will never abandon us. .
So today we celebrated my 5 yrs of being cancer free....I am somewhat of a private person when it comes to my self. Actually when I first got the diagnosis I was most upset that I would have to stop doing what actually gives me the very breath of life - helping a child...especially a special needs child. God had other plans and I love that I have been able to overcome this obstacle and move on to health and many more opportunities to love a child as my own. We never are promised even the very next moments so use each one wisely . Live in such a way that people see it ! Thank you to those who knew and prayed and for my family who love and celebrate this day with me.
We had 22 children come thru our heart thru foster care before we adopted 30 children internationally. (We adopted our son Abraham from Mexico as we raised our 5 bio. In case you were wondering and know we have 31 adopted children).
We hated the system but loved the children. Good article.